6 Great Alternatives To Dating Apps


Dating is supposed to be easier than ever now that we have dating apps. You don’t need to go out to a bar and try to find a way to strike up a conversation with somebody, only to find out that they’re not interested or they’re already in a relationship. The whole thing is a bit of a nightmare, which is why dating apps are so popular. You can cut out all of the difficult bits and match with people that you already know are interested in you. There is more choice than ever and you can set up a date in 5 minutes. But dating apps might not be as great as they seem on the surface.

There are quite a few problems with dating apps and some people really hate using them. The biggest issue is that a lot of the people on there are not looking for anything serious. If you are looking for a long term relationship, dating apps are not always the best place for it. Some alternatives apps like Piq have tried to combat this by matching people based on interests before they see a picture. The idea is that it is focused on personality and shared interests, rather than looks alone. Unfortunately, it’s not really taking off, so you’re left with the likes of Tinder.

The other big problem with dating apps is the number of people that are on them. People assume that choice is a good thing and if you can see all of the potential dates in your area, it’s easier to find the right person for you. Unfortunately, there is a big downside to choice. It causes a fear of missing out, so even if people meet somebody that they really get on with and they meet up a few times, they are often reluctant to commit to anything more serious. They worry that if they take themselves out of the dating pool, they will miss out on meeting people that they are more compatible with. That means they never actually end up starting a relationship with anybody.

Dating apps can also pose a bit of a safety risk. Meeting up with somebody that you don’t really know is always a bit of a risk, but when you meet on a dating app, you need to be particularly careful. People put photos up but they could get them from anywhere online and they could be lying about who they are. If you are going to go on dates with people that you meet on an app, it’s important that you take steps to keep yourself safe, but some people still don’t like the idea of doing it.

These are all good reasons why you wouldn’t want to use a dating app, so for people that don’t like using them, it can sometimes seem like it’s impossible to meet people. When everybody is just meeting online, it makes it even more daunting to approach people. But don’t give up just yet because it is still possible to do things the old fashioned way. These are some of the best places to meet people if you hate dating apps.




Phone Chat Lines
If you like the simplicity and convenience of a dating app, but you don’t like the impersonal feel for it, you should consider chatlines. There are some great free chatlines that allow you to record an introduction message giving a little bit of information about yourself. Then you can listen through other people’s introductions and match with people that interest you. When you match with people, you get to chat to them on the phone and go from there. It has the same benefits as dating apps because it puts you in touch with people easily, but it’s based more on interests and compatibility instead of looks, which is better for a lot of people. It’s also easier to get to know people by talking on the phone rather than messaging. When you send messages, people can be more calculated and build the picture that they want you to see. Over the phone though, people are more genuine. If you want the best of both worlds, this is a good way to get it.

Speed Dating
Speed dating is like the face to face version of dating apps in a way. You briefly meet lots of people in a short space of time, just like you would swipe through photos on Tinder, and then you decide which ones you would like to see again. It’s an efficient way to meet a lot of people that are also interested in dating. But it’s better than a dating app because you can actually chat with them for a few minutes and get a sense of what they are like as a person, rather than making your decision based on a picture and a short bio. It’s a good middle ground for people that want quick and efficient dating but they want to get to somebody face to face.


At A Bar
Meeting people at a bar might seem like a tired cliche that isn’t relevant anymore now that we have dating apps, but that isn’t the case at all. When people go out to a bar, they’re looking to have a good time and socialize with people. Even if they aren’t going out with the intention of meeting people, they’re still there to be social and they will be receptive. People are also going to be a bit more relaxed if they have had a few drinks, so you don’t have to be so nervous. You can chat to somebody for a while and get to know them for a bit before deciding whether you are interested or not. If you are not, you can just leave. When you first start approaching people at bars, it can be very daunting. But after you have done it a few times and you get over that initial fear, you’ll find it easy. As long as you are respectful of people and you do not push it if they are clearly not interested, approaching somebody at a bar is still a very effective way to meet people.


Through Friends And Family

One of the best ways to meet people is through your friends and family, but a lot of people resist it. It can get annoying if your parents are constantly trying to set you up with people and telling you that you need to find someone, but maybe you should listen to them. Your family knows you better than anybody so they probably have a good idea of the kind of person that you would be well suited for. But it’s a bit of an awkward date if you’ve been set up by your parents, so it doesn’t always work out. It’s often easier if you let your friends set you up with people because it can be more casual. You don’t necessarily have to arrange a blind date, they can just invite you both along to a social occasion and give you the chance to meet. If you hit it off, you can arrange a date, but if you don’t, it doesn’t really make a difference. Even though you might think that it’s embarrassing to have people set you up, you should take the advice of people around because they know you.




Join A Group
You should be looking to meet people with similar interests so you have something to talk about when you first get to know one another. That’s why it’s always good to think about your hobbies and interests and consider joining some groups. For example, if you love reading, why not join a book club, or if you have a passion for cooking, you could join a class. If you like playing sports, see if there are any local teams that you could join. If you can get involved with groups and social activities like this, you will meet a lot of people with shared interests. It’s a casual way to meet a lot of people and you may be interested in some of them romantically. Even if you aren’t, you’ll still meet a lot of new friends so you have nothing to lose. 


At Work
A lot of couples meet at work which isn’t surprising really because you spend so much time there. When you are with somebody all day, every day, you really start to build a good relationship and that foundation is often a good way to start dating somebody. However, you do have to be careful when dating at work because it can cause some awkward situations, and a lot of companies have a policy against it. You should not directly ask coworkers on a date if you don’t really know them that well because it can make them feel uncomfortable. But if you feel that you have built a strong friendship with somebody over time and you think that they are interested in you as well, you can ask them to meet up after work in a casual way.


Even though online dating apps are popular and most people are using them, that doesn’t mean that you have to. If you want to do things the old fashioned way, try some of these great alternative ways to meet people.

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